Anger possesses the very essence of Change. When we look or experience anger, most are afraid of its power. All emotions are compelling.
We view emotions as negative or positive, and yet they are only emotional responses to stimuli.
Emotions are strictly a discernible sensation of perception, a multitude of impressionable feelings we contain in our body and brain. Giving ourselves a view, a choice in our lives to take some type of action or involvement of a relationship.
What we do with them is our choice. We can change and mold the moment for our future, that we wish to live in relationship with life or in accomplishing a task.
If anger is not dealt with immediately or soon after the emotions arise, anger, as all emotions have a negative downside, e.g. love can be smothering. Anger may traverse into rage, or depression causing grievous damage to our human nature. If used correctly, anger has the ability to change the world and a person’s life.
Think of those who have changed the world for the better. Gandhi, Wright Brothers, Women’s Suffrage, Martin Luther King MLK. Kennedy JFK, worked on racial issues of our world long after Abraham Lincoln agonized over racial inequality and abuse. The consequences offer good and bad in the long range of life.
A person with A TBI or multiple TBIs, often are encroached by the word Rage. This is a frightening word; it denotes violence. Anger comes in many forms, and redirecting the verbiage is a first step in identifying the underlining emotion.
These words identify more of the emotion’s experienced than sending out a Red caution signal. Also, when a person is given the opportunity to express an emotion, this allows the emotion to reveal its self and begin an open dialogue. We allow a connection through Trust.
For individuals with TBIs, the immense struggle to express is agonizing, for the individual feels what they wish to express and yet the brains’ wiring has been damage, the words come out convoluted, furthering the emotional contortion.
Anger is an emotional drive towards a resolution. It contains the same amount of energy as Happiness.
When anger is held inside, the emotion does not dissipate, instead boils and bubbles into extreme harmful conditions, such as: Depression, Acrimony, Animosity, Uncontrollable Reaction, and Furor, to list a few examples.
Emotion, is an energy thrust forth by the human experience that emotes to either expression, connection, examine, learn from, evolve, relief and to move forward.
The downside of false emotion may lead to addictions, drugs, raging tempers and out of control behavior can result in, lack of trusting friendships or support. Natural loners also might lack in support, does not indicate emotional unresponsiveness.
Respond verses Reaction:
- Establish Trust and Purpose
- State clearly your emotion
- Take responsibility for your feelings
- Understand, emotions are responsive indicators
- Be clear in your intentions when having a conversation and its content
- Respond instead of React; giving all parties a moment for self evaluation
- Let go of “complaining and blaming,” these will never serve or help you
- If you need to vent, state so with the intentions of amending your views
- Look at why you have responded to a person with certain emotions. This is a change-up opportunity to evolve and greet the better part of yourself
- Learn to Listen – Develop Tolerance: no one is 100%
- Always reach a resolution to grow and allow the emotion to dissipate
Emotions are a wondrous barometer when utilized correctly, we grow – evolve, have the capacity to change our environment, our communities, our world. Emotions are a learning factor from our instinctual core.
Anger has brought about revolutions of change. Albeit not pleasant, and at times very prolonged – the results have change us better humans in longevity from crucifixions to caring solace (we are not 100%). Humans have evolved and continue to look forward in ameliorating many of our mistakes. We are becoming more self aware in augmenting our talents and skills.
Remember, it was less than 100 years ago, few had electricity. The offset is we must learn how to progress. Progression, if we look carefully has upsides-downsides, and humans must look forward in developing our better qualities.
As I moved through these past 13 years, the injuries and TBIs, my body was more responsive for I had more help in recovery and expertise from surgeons. The TBIs took immense amount of time for the lack of supportive knowledge. Yes, I stumbled around in the dark, but I did come through with a great deal of knowledge. Upside!
When we give ourselves room to explore the core injury, such as TBIs, we discover our incredible selves in the midst of the anguish. Giving focus to the superior capacity of our brains, changing instantaneously. Reformatting and setting new neural pathways (neuro-genises), is a great opportunity that lends to HOPE for those you suffer endlessly.
Hope is a tangible!
Remember, your emotional experience is your choice. An opportunity has presented itself and you have the ability to change, heal, add resolution. Become that person deep inside you respect. Confident!
You know how people refer to dogs as their best friends? Animals have emotions, they are simply not attached to the experience as we humans are, for they live in the moment as life changes.
Be that person your dog or cat, bird or horse knows you are. Incredible!
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MicheleElys is a Neuro-Behaviorist: TBI – Trauma Recovery & Solutions
Author – Keynote Speaker
Reluctant French Chef
Projects: Weekly Articles on TBI & Human Behavior Solutions. Two Books in the works.
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