Everyone Needs to be Heard, Learn to Listen, Listen to get unstuck and heal, Listen to the pain of an injured TBI person, Listening quietly offers relief, Listening TBI allows healing, Sharing moments are healing, We care when we Listen
We open our Hearts and Connect when we Listen.
Loneliness comes from disconnections! We have lost the art of listening and Time Management no longer includes people as a priority.
Those injured with TBIs suffer gravely! Everyone leaves the injured person, for their abilities to function and communicate has radically changed. Misinterpretations run the gamut. Listening is an integral part the of healing; take the time to be quiet, observe, ask a question, wait for the answer. A TBI person lives in anguish, attempting to relate their needs and explain how arduous life is. They need you to Listen.
Liven all senses, eyes, tactile sensations, tastes, and smells; the brain is charged with ideas and options, compassion flourishes.
When I write, I listen to music.
This is your Brain on Music
Imagine what will happen when you Listen to a person who needs to be heard.
I volunteered at Children’s hospital, an eight girl suffered burns over half her body. Being young – alone, without a mother visiting, she was despondent.
Slipping on sterilized booties and gown, the nurses warned me she was not eating. I entered the room finding a lonely child in need, slumped and sad. Sitting down I gave her an invitation. She came over without a word climbing onto my lap.
Noticing her head hanging low, I spoke softly – “are you hungry?” She nodded yes and began to eat as I fed her. We needed a quiet relationship of trust. Listening is Nurturing.
She tired quickly for her entire torso and arms had second and third degree burns. The daily therapies were excruciating and exhaustive. Asking if she wanted me to return, she nodded her head and fell to sleep as I placed her in bed.
Telling the nurses she eat, asking them for better food than a hotdog, they stated “Don’t get too attached.” In shock, I said, “Love and Caring is not an attachment nor is listening” as I walked away.
Rearranging my schedule some, I spent several days visiting and feeding my little burned victim. She sat on my lap with quiet smiles; Listening is simple comfort.
The Last visit I brought balloons and a stuff Bear, as I walked into the ward I found her empty room; my heart sank. Looking around the floor, I heard children laughing. Wandering towards the joyous sounds, I found my little 8 year old talking, playing and giggling with other children. Listening, helped her gain strength, abating infections.
She did not notice me as I set the Bear on the bed, tying the balloons as well. I left with a happy heart.
Meet interesting people, get out of “Stuck” with the same group. Strangers often have a breadth of experienced knowledge that might entertain you. Use those 3 pounds of grey matter in your skull, which is embedded with a billion sensors, Get unstuck!
Spending time with people from different backgrounds, cultures, and countries, expanding your horizons changes your view points, while adding to your life.
Listen with your ears, eyes, tactile jesters, watching behaviors, social and body signals. We are losing touch being hooked to devices all the time.
Listening is a quiet compassion offering our hearts and minds, deepening our ability to relate to another human, increases wisdom; We are Limitless.
My first Rottweiler Seybrook’s was at the end of her life. She was a Children’s therapy dog and now 14.5 years of age. Calling my vet we arranged a time for him to come to my home.
Gathering Emme my house-sister, and my neighbors who lived next door and across the street. Inviting others with Rotties and other dogs, we all shared in the moment of Seybrook’s passing.
My Victorian’s library was full of love and lots of tissue. They stood or sat quietly as Seybrook laid on her sheep blanket.
The final drug was administered, Seybrook gently drifted away in my arms.
We all listened, felt, watched the beauty of death after a long happy life. No words where uttered except:
Seybrook is gone.
Seybrook’s ashes sit in a canister along with all my dogs and cats until the time comes, we are all scattered somewhere in the Rocky Mountains.
Sit with friends face to face and Listen. Hear the sound of their voice, watch their eyes, lean in with your body, mingle and feel the energy. Be part of their experience.
Listening Don’t and Do’s:
- I have to answer this call, (while dinning)
- I want to be with you and feel our connection
- I am too busy, another time
- Let’s make time for each other
- A new project at work that must get done
- Meet me for dinner and talk to each other about this project
- Life is too busy right now
- I can arrange time for you
- I have to work out, then get back to work and then there is the family
- Hey, let’s take an hour and go for a hike with our dogs
Our skin and body moves differently to the aspects of a conversation, we grow closer, gain understanding, increase in empathy, and awareness in our lives.
We offer our deeper selves when Listening to each other. We gain understanding, compassion, closeness – integral trust by Listening.
MicheleElys is a Neuro-Behaviorist: TBI – Trauma Recovery & Solutions
Author – Keynote Speaker
Reluctant French Chef
Projects: Weekly Articles on TBI & Human Behavior Solutions. Two Books in the works.
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